The Intimacy of Masturbation

You watch Misfits right? You don't? Well you definitely should. Misfits is a British television show that centers around a group of delinquents. During some weird freaky storm they all get super powers along with a few other people. Only, not all these powers can be used to save the world. Here's a clip from the show below. ( I wish Youtube had better clips that tell you more about the show, but you can definitely check it out on Hulu)

Alicia is attractive ad portrayed as permiscuous. After the storm, she learns that any person that touches her will want to have sex with her and can't control themselves, let alone even remember it. IT may seem great that she can get any guy she wants but her story is a tragic one. This ruins her self-esteem. Her boyfriend can't even touch her without suddenly feeling the aggressive need to have sex with her and not even remember it happened. What do you do when you really care about someone but you can't touch each other, kiss each other or have sex with each other? Masturbation of course!

The show poses masturbation as an alternative to sex, something we discussed in class. Masturbating is definitely shown as a preventative measure here, although the circumstances are vary unusual. Wouldn't masturbation get boring after a while though? What if you want companionship. The show has the answer for that too. Alicia and her boyfriend Curtis masturbate in front of each other, sharing an intimate moment. Masturbation between the two characters is much more intimate than sex. If the two were to have sex, Alicia would be thought of nothing more than a sexual object, quickly forgotten about afterward.

Check out a clip here 

Delgado and Austin's (2007) study results on media intervention  suggests that popular television shows can promote recall of sexual health-related messages. Sexual health content in the media is rare; however, when present it is often humorous or humiliating (Hust, Brown, & Ladin L’engle, 2008). In this case of Misfits, the show's sexual content is definitely meant to be humorous. But this could be a method of attracting young viewers and interesting them. Rarely does a show present an alternative preventative aside from abstinence or condom use. Here is the rare case where masturbation is presented as a preventative measure for sex, rather than a precursor for sex.

I think the show also debunks the myth that sex equates to intimacy. In the show, being desirable is worthless because that comes relatively easy. Any person Alicia touches will find her desirable and irresistable, moreover, she has no control over it- she can't turn her powers on and off. This speaks to the stereotype that all men want to have sex with an attractive woman and sex is all consuming. The show highlights that emotions are the gateway to forming a worthwhile connection. Any form of physical interaction is rendered meaningless in Alicia's case.

There's No Such Thing As A Dumb Question

Here's the yahoo answer post I mentioned in class. If you click on the paragraph below it'll redirect you to the original post with comments and all. 

Will I get pregnant if he ejaculated in me?

Well me and my boyfriend decided to have sex at my house since my parents are away. We were doing foreplay on for a good 15 minutes.. I was giving him head while he was lying down with his eyes closed. Then all of sudden, my 6.5 ft tall, 290 lbs Great Dane came over and stuck his penis in my vagina from behind. It was the one of the worse experience ever. My Great Dane started humping me and I was just yelling. My BF was just sitting there shocked. He tried to move the dog but the dog would not bulge. Suddenly I felt a sticky warm fluid in my vagina. My Great Dane finally came off and I realized he just finished breeding with me. I sat there shocked, crying and my boyfriend just hugged me. I was so disgusted. I think I may be pregnant and Im so scared. What if my babies have dog heads and human bodies? How do i explain that to my parents? So can I still get pregnant even if my dog camed in it?

Now if this isn't the media acting as a super peer, I don’t know what is. I'm pretty sure there's no one you could ask this question to without them laughing in your face and thinking you're an idiot. I wouldn't dare ask my friends this, no matter how experienced or smart i thought they were. It seems heterosexual adolescents and adolescents in the LGBT community use the Internet in similar ways when seeking information regarding sex.For LBGT individuals the media is used more frequently than any face-to-face interpersonal relationships as a source of information during the coming-out process (Bond et al., 2009). The majority of the participants in the Bond et al. study (2009) use the Internet in their information gathering, the majority of Internet users being younger. Similarly, adolescents in both these groups are using the Internet to gather information related to sex and relationships. 


The internet is truly a priceless resource when it comes to seeking information about sex. There is a myriad of sexual situations or information that can not be put into magazines, movies or on television because it would result in an uproar from viewers and supporting advertisers. The internet can allow for questions to be answered anonymously, by those who have the answers. I'm pretty sure if you asked some adults the above Yahoo question they would tell the girl no but start to wonder themselves if it is truly possible. The first place they'd head to find the answer is the internet. It's surprising how common ridiculous questions such as this are asked on the internet. But I'm sure we'd rather have those who don't know the answer ask. The anonymity the internet allows makes it safe to ask questions and learn about sex. Who needs television to teach you when you can type in any question you have about sex and have it answered?


 Being older and college educated, we may think this is a dumb question. But aren't we glad they asked? Can you imagine being an adolescent girl thinking you're going to give birth to a litter of puppies? Every itch you get you'd think it was fleas and begin to freak out more. There are many sex myths that people come up with and there are those that are widely held. The internet allows for those to be dispelled if someone is truly curious. Check out the link below for more odd, ridiculously hilarious sex questions. Some crazy questions are from adults as old as 30!

The Yahoo Answers Guide To Sex: 14 Idiotic Questions About Sexuality

It's Not Sexual Harassment If She's Attractive

Very rarely do we hear cases of sexual harassment where the victim is a male. It is even more rare that these situations are portrayed in movies or on television. However, when these situations are shown on film or television, sexual harassment is portrayed in a manner that would be considered if the victim was a woman. The media tends to portray male sexual harassment as a joking manner. Take this trailer from Horrible Bosses as example. The clip illustrates the extreme sexual harassment one of the main characters, Dale, faces from his female boss. 

Ridiculous right? In fact, it's meant to be hilarious; what men wouldn't love to have super hot Jennifer Aniston sexually harassing them? Here's what happens when Dale shares his problem with his friends: 

Dale Arbus: At least your boss isn't sexually harassing you.

Kurt Buckman: [sarcastically] Oh, my God! I hear you on that one.

Dale Arbus:  Don't give me shit!

Nick Hendricks: You'll never get any sympathy out of us for this.

Dale Arbus: She's going crazy! It's like a totally hostel working environment there, man. It's not funny!

Nick Hendricks: Yeah?

Dale Arbus: Alright, check it out. Today, she started spraying water at my crotch so she could see the outline of my dick.

Kurt Buckman: That's great!

Dale Arbus: It's not great!

Kurt Buckman: What are you talking about? Why don't you just, you know, just fuck her?

Dale Arbus: Because I'm engaged to be married and I love my fiance, okay?

Dale's friends suggest that the extreme sexual harassment he is facing is not a problem at all. In fact, they support the sexual harassment Dale receives from his boss. Media portrayals of male sexual harassment such as this sends the message that sexual harassment from an attractive woman is welcomed. In fact, it is not considered sexual harassment at all because no man should be unwilling to have sex with an attractive woman. These messages reinforce the stereotype that men are sex obsessed and want to have sex with anyone they find attractive, despite a lack of emotional attachment. 

Media perceptions such as this can lead to less perceived victim trauma if the victim is a male. The  Ferguson et al. (2005) study illustrates that those participants exposed to clips of women engaging in promiscuous behavior reported perceptions of less victim trauma. Perhaps this stereotype that men are sex obsessed will be activated by watching portrayals such as this. Viewers could apply this stereotype to themselves or other men and as a result view male sexual harassment as a joking or non serious manner. 

My guess is that male sexual harassment is taken less seriously because of this stereotype that men are always willing to have sex with an attractive woman. Moreover, I believe that male sexual harassment is portrayed to be a joking manner because there is less of a threat than when a woman is victim of sexual harassment. Men are biologically stronger than women. this diminishes the likelihood that a woman could rape a man. She'd have to be quite strong in comparison to the man or perhaps drug him. 

Ultimately, is it sexual harassment if we find the other person attractive. Do we let some comments slide from attractive aggressors compared to aggressors we find unattractive?

Does Social Media Affect Dating and Relationships?

The internet is in constant development; everyday new means of connecting with people across the world are invented. As we have become more invested in the Internet’s capabilities, it has worked its way into various aspects of our lives such as school, work, and family. What I find interesting is how the Internet impacts relationships and dating. Here’s a quick poll I made you can take:

TAKE THIS POLL!

 

Social media has enabled us to learn more about those we are interested in (family, friends, significant others, crushes etc.) It connects us to our peers, allowing us to distribute personal information to a mass audience of our choosing.  We can post photos of our most recent trip, share a funny experience; state our opinions, likes and dislikes. Often, these are small details about our lives we may not feel compelled to bring up in conversations with our friends because they may or may not care. Social media saves us the time of meeting with every friend daily or repeatedly sharing the same details of our lives with different people.

On the flipside social media enables everyone to become a private investigator. It is natural that people want to share their opinions, funny stories and thoughts with others. Yet, social media seems to encourage a new extent of sharing. There’s the showing of too much skin, sharing personal relationship or sexual details, venting via social media, and much more. No one needs to invade your privacy when you’ve made your once private life public. With so much information aggregated into one place, crushing on someone can easily become stalking.  You can find out where they ate lunch, their past love interests, family, friends, and basically experience the past years of their life as though you were actually there.

When you finally do meet up with the hottie you’ve been crushing on from behind your computer screen, what’s left to talk about if they’re a frequent user of social media? Mostly everything they’re going to tell you you’ve already read on their profile page and recent updates.  And what happens when you want to make things “Facebook official” and they don’t want to do the same? Should you have each others’ passwords? Is it valid to bring up that they’ve been chatting with their ex too much? Social media adds a new aspect to dating and relationships. And although it may be easier to connect with those you may not have been able to before, do the potential difficulties it brings to dating and relationships outweigh the convenience?

What do you all think?

Women Superheroes Will Forever Ride Shotgun

I'm sure many people can relate to wishing they were as superhero as a kid. You'd watch Superman, Batman or Flash and fantasize how great it'd be to live their lives: saving the world, kicking butt and having awesome powers (or in batman's case a large disposable income). But to what extent are these superhero narratives cultivating stereotypical gender roles of dominance and submission  in children? Should we really be concerned if wanting to be a superhero is "just a phase" and we eventually learn that being a superhero is unrealistic?

Meet the superheros of today. HBO's summer series Superheroes looks into the lives of RLSH  (Real Life Super Heroes), hundreds of men and women with the goal of deterring violent crime and, if necessary, taking the law into their own hands. 

Question is, WHERE ARE ALL THE WOMEN?

 When watching this trailer, I took notice of the lack of women RLSH (Real Life Super Heroes). One woman RLSH is featured, but how she is shown makes it pretty hard to tell if she’s a woman or a slim built man with muscle-boobs. My guess is that when watching or reading superhero narratives as an adolescent, few female superheroes appeared. Or, when they did appear, they came in the form of “damsels in distress”, sidekicks or insignificant superheros who could do little to help. It could be that there are not many female RLSH to feature in the show; however, that is not the case.

Within most superhero narratives, male superheroes typically appear as dominant. They are assertive, forceful, firm, aggressive, and decision makers.  This complies with the notion that dominant acts tend to be related to the male gender role (Ivory, Gibson & Ivory, 2009). The submissive trait is described as being self-doubting, meek, unaggressive, forceless, unbold and timid. Just take a look at this clip below. Which of the pair seems to be dominant?

Although  Batgirl may not appear completely submissive, she certainly takes a backseat to Batman in the clip. Moreover, the clip goes so far to suggest that she is not as intelligent or as skillful a superhero as Batman; he often points out her shortcomings.Could it be that there lack female Real Life Super Heroes in the HBO series because women are not thought to not posses the typical qualities of a superhero (strong, aggressive, dominating, decision making, quick thinking etc.)? 

 Spring Break: Featuring Boobies, Short Shorts and Your Favorite Disney Channel Stars

While tabling for the Townie Street Party (the kick-off event for the Ann Arbor art Fair) this Monday, I passed the time by admiring elaborate painted faces and the wacky colored hair of children. However, an older co-worker of mine took the opportunity to notice how short and tight the clothing of young girls seemed to be in comparison with previous years. I soon began to notice just how much ass cheek was struggling to stay hidden inside the super cut-off shorts and mini-dresses of girls ranging from 10 to 15. Something's off when there's a Disney character shirt paired with hot pants.

When you think about the Disney Channel Stars of the past few years, many (Miley Cyrus, Vanessa Hudgens, Demi Lovato etc.) have been surrounded by controversy. Many parents are concerned with the actors lives outside of their on-screen roles because these stars come to be viewed as role models. Let's face it, if my role model is posing nude and doing bong rips, I- being a young impressionable adolescent girl in this scenario- will want to strip down and smoke a few puffs too. I remember recently coming across this ad for an upcoming movie featuring Disney Channel stars Selena Gomez and Vanessa Hudgens. Nearly everyone was furious with their attire and posing although the film will not be appearing on The Disney Channel. Actress Selena Gomez urges her younger fans not to see the movie due to its controversial nature; however, mere mention of the actress in the movie could send fans swarming to the box office.

Sexually explicit content is getting consumed at younger ages each year; adolescents are frequent viewers of R-rated films (J.D. Brown et al., 2005). According to the J.D. Brown et al. (2005) reading for this week, girls who mature earlier maintain high interests in viewing information about sex, relationships and dating on TV or in movies. From this movie promo it is clear what the move is selling. As adolescent girls learn more about relationships, dating and sex, they actively consume sexual media content (Brown, White, Nikipolou, 1993). This movie can be especially dangerous on adolescent girls if they perceive the content to be realistic (Taylor, 2005). The  portrayal of Selena Gomez and Vanessa Hudgens in this film is especially dangerous because many girls identify them as role models. Young adolescent fans relate to these girls or want to be like them. According to Ward and Rivadeneyra (1999), the level of identification a viewer maintains with the character produces a strong connection to sexual outcomes such as recreational sex attitudes and an estimation of sexual encounters of peers.


I fear this movie will be viewed by many of Selena and Vanessa's fans. And although Selena urges younger fans not to see it, it's not as though there will be a warning label on the ticket- oh wait, I forgot there are those movie ratings everyone ignores. Many stars that start out on Disney move on to more edgier roles as they advance in age; it is only natural that they wish to be taken more serious an an actress/actor. However, they often forget they signed their careers away and will forever be crippled by Disney. Few careers make the transition from Disney to successful careers where they are taken serious. Every life decision is criticized and pressured by the media because the influence these stars have on young children is so powerful. I can guarantee that PacSun sells out of pastel colored short shorts a week after this movie premiers.

 Side note: I'm actually really interested in seeing this movie. Don't worry though- I hate pastel colors.

Movie Analysis: No Strings Atatched

The romantic comedy, No Strings Attached, follows the romantic relationship of Adam and Emma, who continually meet over a period of ten years. Adam finds himself head over heels for Emma who steers clear of relationships and her emotions.  Emma’s fear of commitment results in their settling on a no strings attached relationship where they use each other for sex, void of emotions and any commitment. If this sounds impossible, that’s because it is. Both develop deep feelings for each other; however, only Adam presses for a committed relationship while Emma resists.  No Strings Attached presents a reverse of what Kim et al.’s study (2007) presents as the Heterosexual Script- gendered scripts in relational and sexual situations (p. 146). Typical masculine courting and relationship behaviors are demonstrated by Emma, the female character and typical feminine courting and relationship behaviors are exemplified by Adam, the male character. In analyzing three clips from the movie, many of the Heterosexual scripts were reversed; however, the movie as a whole still embodied the traditional idea of male pursuit.  

In an early scene from the movie, Adam and Emma run into each other at a pajama party. Emma finds herself in a pair of onesie pajamas while all the other women are barely dressed and drunkenly dancing suggestively. Adam and Emma recognize each other from across the room and strike up conversation, casually flirting with one another. This is the first time they have seen each other since camp as adolescents. After Adam expresses he likes Emma, Emma invites him to “this stupid thing she has to go to” the next day- her dad’s funeral.

This scene strongly contradicts Ward’s codes of the male and female sexual role (1995) Components of the male sexual role includes, men valuing women based on physical appearance, viewing them as sexual objects, being sexual defines masculinity and men being imitators or aggressors, using devious tactics to seduce women. In this clip, Adam does not view Emma as a sexual object. In fact, her sex appeal is so low that when Adam points her out to his friend, he mentions her provocatively dressed friend standing next to her. After laughing at a joke Emma makes, Adam is aggressive and tells Emma he likes her. In some ways this is suggesting that he values her for her personality rather than views her as a sexual object. Yet, he knows very little about her and has decided he likes her. 

In this scene, Emma is also the aggressor. She mentions the sexual nature of their first encounter years ago, and asks him out on a date. Unlike in traditional scripts, Emma does not use her sexuality to attract men, nor does she objectify herself as other women in the clip. Typical self objectification is illustrated through Emma’s friend. She tells Emma that all she must do is look hot and be drunk. He friend then proceeds to stop the music and scream that she’s drunk, receiving cheers from the entire party. The female sexual role states that women are passive in sexual relations and understand that a nice appearance is key for success and attracting men (Ward, 1995). Similarly, Kim et al.’s (2007) feminine courtship strategies states that women do and should objectify themselves to interest men. Emma’s character contradicts both the female sexual role code and feminine courtship strategies. 

The reverse of heterosexual scripts in this scene suggests stereotypical behavior to men but contradictory ideas about women’s behavior. It is suggested that men should know what they want and make the first move; moreover, this scene suggests to men that emotional connections are not important. This behavior is suggested by Adam casually telling Emma he likes her, though knowing very little about her. When Emma questions Adams statement, he reveals that there is no explanation for it. This reinforces the notion that men are non emotional people and all the feeling and deeper thought should be left up to women (Ward, 1995, 605). The scene suggest women should embody contradictory behaviors. They should be aggressive and ask men out first, yet be interesting and mysterious; it is their job to interest men. In addition, when Emma allows Adam’s reason for his declaration of like for her to remain unanswered, her character’s behavior suggests that women should be passive and let men dominate. Although the characters behaviors themselves presents a reversal of scripts and traditional gender roles, the scene manages to suggest stereotypical behavior of men and contradictory behaviors for women. 

 

Throughout the movie, Emma is the sexual aggressor. In this second clip Emma and Adam finish having sex. When Emma rushes to put on her clothing, Adam invites her to stay for breakfast. Afraid of the problems that follow relationships, Emma explains to Adam what she does and does not want. This results in their “no-strings-attached” agreement.

 

Although Adam is an initiator in this scene, he is attempting to create a relationship. Emma can be considered to be the sexual initiator, straying from the notion that men typically are the aggressors and initiators of sexual relations (Ward, 1995, p. 605). Adam completely contradicts the masculine commitment role, wanting a relationship and monogamy (Kim et al., 2007, 158). Emma maintains the control, becoming the dominant partner. Emma’s dominance is displayed through giving orders, initiating sexual activity and showing low commitment (Ivory, 2009, p. 181). However, contradictory to Ivory (2009), these dominant acts are not related to the male gender role. 

A code embodied by Emma’s character in the scene is her responsibility of setting sexual limits, a component of the female sexual role (Ward, 1995). It is Emma’s responsibility to accept or reject Adam’s advances. She goes so far as to set the sexual limits for the entire relationship, defining the terms of their “no strings attached". This scene strengthens the notion that women are responsible for setting sexual limits while weakening components of the male sexual role. The scene suggests that women should go beyond accepting and refusing sexual advances. Instead they should be comfortable with initiating them and stating the bounds of their sexual desires. Women can set sexual limits and be the dominant partner when it comes to sexuality. This scene takes components of the male sexual role and attributes them to women. Women can be dominant, initiators, and  aggressors just as men can.

This setting of this last clip is  Emma and Adam’s first official date. Emma is frustrated with the romantic date Adam has planned and wants to go back to a strictly sexual relationship. She asks Adam to take her home because she can’t handle everything going on. The clip starts right after Emma tells Adam that he should just find some girl that won’t hurt him. When Adam reveals that he can’t do that because he’s in love with her, Emma flips out and attacks him. 

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xip6kj_you-fight-like-a-hamster_shortfilms 

This scene exemplifies codes not presented in the other two clips. Presented here, is a component of the relational orientation. The relational orientation focuses on partners as friends and views sex as a gateway to intimacy in a romantic relationship (Ward, 1995, 600). When the possibility of this orientation becomes real, Emma gets afraid. Adam wants to experience the intimacy of a relationship with Emma and give up the purely sexual relationship they’re supposed to be having. Adam’s expression of love represents a step towards relational orientation; however, Emma resists it by hitting and fighting him. Their entire date is embodies the masculine courtship strategy. Adam plans an elaborate Valentine’s Day date in attempts to win Emma’s affection. His courtship strategy is so powerful that it is overwhelming and has the opposite intended effect, pushing Emma away.

Overall, the scene suggests that men should strategically plan elaborate dates and utilize other strategies to gain women’s affection. Moreover, if she is not impressed and does not fall for the guy, then something is clearly wrong with the woman. Emma does not want Adam to take care of her, nor does she want a relationship. This results in Adam calling her “messed up”. Surely she must be to refuse all his advances and not want to be his girlfriend. This message is the strongest suggested throughout the scene. 

Adam and Emma’s behavior in No Strings Attached contradicts traditional heterosexual script, reversing sexual roles and courtship strategies. However, the scenes suggest a woman embody binary behaviors and strengthens the traditional notion of men pursuing women. It is suggested that women set sexual limits but be aggressive and dominating. Emma embraces her sexuality and takes control of the relationship. Adam, although appearing submissive to Emma’s decisions, continues to pursue his initial desire, a committed intimate relationship with Emma. The film embodies the norm that men should pursue women despite a woman’s decision because a relationship with men is what women want. No Strings Attached suggests that women are messed up and emotionally dysfunctional if they do not want to be in a relationship; furthermore, all women want to be in a relationship, even if they do not know it.  

Holz Ivory, A., Gibson, R., & Ivory, J. D. (2009). Gendered relationships on television: Portrayals of same--‐sex and heterosexual couples. Mass Communication & Society, 12(2), 170--‐192. doi: 10.1080/15205430802169607

Kim, J. L., Sorsoli, C.L., Collins, K., Zylbergold, B. B., Schooler, d., & Tolman, D. L., (2007). From sex to sexuality: Exposing the heterosexual script on primetime network television. Journal of Sex Research, 44 (2), 145-157.

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The Secret Life of Teenage Sexuality

        In between seasons of my favorite shows, I’m forced to find new ways to waste my time. Unfortunately this results in me subjecting myself to the torturous plot and acting of The Secret Life of the American Teenager. A large portion of this episode centers on homoeroticism between best friends Grace and Adrian, a concept we read about last week. In this episode, rumor circulates about Amy’s mother’s homosexuality. The high school’s students become obsessed with homosexuality and suggest that Amy too is gay because her mom is. The students go so far as to suggest Amy’s marriage date, the Fourth of July, is a gay holiday. However, Amy learns that no one thinks her fiancé Ricky is gay although his mother is gay. This suggests that society is turned off by male sexuality; furthermore, homoeroticism between females is more exciting, to both men and women.

        When Adrian brings up that she has considered being with another woman, Grace accidentally reveals that she has thought about kissing Adrian before. This revelation causes Grace to question her own sexuality and Adrian to use the situation to gain attention. Below is a clip from the episode:

        Depicted in the clip is one instance of Appropriation of Female Homosexuality that appears in the episode. Jack, Grace’s ex-boyfriend, is turned on by Grace and Adrian’s kissing. Moreover, throughout the episode Jack attempts to get Grace and Adrian to reenact their kiss, exemplifying the idea that men encourage women to engage in homoeroticism for their own pleasure (Kim et. al 2007).

        Meanwhile, Adrian’s boyfriend Omar becomes upset, considering the kiss an act of cheating. Adrian and Omar’s overall relationship contradicts the heterosexual script of commitment. It is believed that women prioritize romantic relationships and make sacrifices for it (Kim et. al, 2007). Instead, Omar forces Adrian to make a promise that she will not be with another guy for a week. Adrian is carefree and embraces her sexuality while Omar’s character runs contradictory to the Masculine Commitment code. Instead of avoiding commitment, marriage and monogamy, he asks for marriage. When Adrian refuses, he asks for at least a commitment. Adrian’s kissing of Grace suggests that her sexual urges are relentless and constantly unsatisfied. Often a defining attribute of masculinity, this sexual aggression and need for sex is now attributed to a woman’s character. 

        What is most interesting is that Adrian is promiscuous. She has "sex like a man" and at the age of 19, she could be compared to the character of Samantha on Sex and the City. Unlike in sex and the city, consequences occur for Adrian. She is considered to be a negative influence on people and much of the school considers her a "slut". As a result of this labeling, she only has one female friend. Yet, these consequences are contradicted by Omar's strong desire to be in a committed relationship with her. This contradiction suggests serves to neutralize the negative consequences. Although much of the school considers her promiscuous, a well educated, older guy is okay with her past and wants to make a future with her.